Over the time I have worked as a practitioner I have had many individuals share some of their most private, emotionally roar, embarrassing and horrific moments of their life, and none seems to be more horrific then child sexual abuse.
More often than not when a client comes to me because of sexual abuse experienced as a child they are usually adult’s and more often are way past their 30’s.
These clients have lived a good part of their life after having suffered from the effects of child abuse, these events have defined who they are, and as such I see some individuals who’s life and lifestyles have been greatly diminished because of the abuse they suffered.
When it comes to abuse and in particular child sexual abuse, I always tend to tread lightly at first until I know exactly whom I am dealing with and their level of emotional discomfort on the topic. For almost all clients I tend to stay away from the core topic at first until we have brought down the emotional discomfort to a level where we can look a little deeper.
Although tapping lightly and staying away from core issues for the first session or even the first portion of a session is not always necessary. I take this on a case by case situation as no two individuals are the same and sometimes you can cover a lot more ground in a single session, and even attack core issues early on during the first session. Like I said I treat each client as an individual and as such it becomes a shared journey and we take whatever path is required to get relief.
Helping Mandy At 19
I helped a young girl recently who was 19 years old (which is great as this girl doesn’t have to spend decades suffering in the same silence which is so common with a lot of clients I see).. She knew nothing about EFT and only came my way because of a discussion she had with my daughter about a month before.
Mandy was very open to wanting release and wanting to move on, but didn’t really expect any more than she had already received from psychologists.
Treading lightly I simply asked her if there was a single event or events that brought up strong negative emotion, and what level that might be. She said she didn’t want to go there but wanted to know if I could help her overcome some triggers that set her off (she used the word trigger, so she knew what she wanted).
Naturally I went with that and asked her what the triggers were. She said that whenever she heard certain words it would immediately cause intense discomfort for her. I asked her what level of discomfort and what was the emotion she felt, she said the level was about a 10 and the emotion was anger and confusion. I then asked her if she was able to tell me the trigger words, she responded and told me that the word “Rape” and “Kinky” or “Kinky Sex” would send her down a path of despair.
I asked her where she was right now on a scale between 0 and 10, she said that she was about a 9.. So we did 3 or 4 rounds of EFT just on the trigger words and how they made her feel. After we did those rounds she said it was down to about a 3. I then asked her where she felt it in her body, and she replied that she felt it in her stomach and that the emotion was one of sadness. Note – the emotion had changed from anger to sadness. We did some tapping on this new emotion and on the feelings in her stomach and also used the trigger words once more.
The above took about 15 to 20 minutes and then suddenly she went quite and looked at me and said “how did you fix me”.. I asked her what she meant and she said, “I cant feel those feelings any more, you fixed me”. Naturally I know it wasn’t about me, she did all the work, I was just the Facilitator guiding her along the way.
Now that I had gained some trust, I then asked her if it was possible to look a little deeper, could we look at some of the events themselves (those events she previously said she wasn’t going to talk about), was there one occasion that always came to mind. She said ok.. But then said, I am thinking about it and not feeling any emotions now (where as previously she would not even go there, we could not even talk about it)..
She went on to say that it was her father that use to rape her and that this started from the age of 10 and ended at around 14. It seemed that all the tapping we previously done on her trigger words had almost completely illuminated the need to tap on anything else connected with the events. We did however go over some of these events, and I had her run a movie of what was happening and we did some more tapping as we went along.
There were some other issues that came to light during our session that were connected with the abuse, but one or two rounds of EFT completely released those feelings.. In total we did a session that lasted about 75 minutes, I ensured we covered as much as we could and as deep as we could.
That was one session, and whilst this is not always the case for suffers of child abuse this illustrates the power of EFT and how it can change lives.
Mandy did come back about a month later and asked if we could do a session for some other issues she was having. Naturally I first wanted to go over what we originally tapped on in our first session (just so I knew she had closer and release), but that was all good. In fact she felt some sadness but that was not about her, she was sad about her father as she said she could see sadness in his eyes. So we did a couple of rounds on that and proceeded with what she had returned to see me about.
Very Fast Release
Below is an illustration of just how powerful EFT can be. I was reluctant to put this here as with the above session I don’t like anyone thinking that release on this topic can be that quick and that instant. But I am hoping you will understand this, and remember that if it takes longer, if it takes 2, 3 or more sessions to find relief, then for you that’s still better then living the rest of your life suffering in silence.